Each day we hear a knock on our psychological door, and when we open it a pushy person enters and begins to bark out orders: “Worry about this.” “Remember and regret that.” “Work harder!” Is it little wonder we experience only the most fleeting feelings of love, kindness or relaxation? We are all the time being pushed along by something […]

Even though we all know the harm it does to lash out at others, to launch an angry attack or act with cruel intent, we still tend to do these things anyway. The following insights help make clear why this happens to us and how we are made, in effect, to act against ourselves and those we love without really […]

Picture a man who just heard that one of his closest friends has betrayed him. How does he respond? What’s his first answer to this ordeal? Anger that includes plans for revenge. Imagine a woman who suddenly realizes she’s going to be late for an important appointment. There’s no way to make it on time. How does she meet the […]